was a few years ago, (prior to John Kennedy Jr.'s untimely
death on July 16, 1999) that Kellie Everts was watching
a tv interview of MARIA SHRIVER: subject, her book on
facing death, published Feb. 15, 1999, "What is Heaven?"
They chatted and the interview was most telling. What
caught Kellie's attention, had nothing to do with the
book, but when Maria talked about Arnold. She said, as
soon as people would meet her, they would say, 'WHAT IS
ARNOLD LIKE?' And as she said this, SHE WINCED.
Shriver did a marvelous story on Kellie Everts for
PM Magazine, Baltimore, in 1979. Weight lifting,
preaching and totally nude dancing made the ratings
go through the roof.
Yes, Kellie could resonate with that. Maria was and is
a celebrity in her own right and has things to say, but
when people met her it was only Arnold they wanted to
know about. But there were other things.... could Maria
have been hurt by the reports of infidelities?
understood that wince. She, also, whenever it was mentioned
that she knew Arnold, would wince. What could she say?
If she told someone the dark side of Arnold they looked
at her like she was crazy. I mean this is a hero. He's
good looking, talented, rich, and so on. Your image is
you, as far as the public is concerned. They go by image
and image is CREATED by public relations. The TRUTH can
seem so weird that it's a lie.
So Kellie was stumped as what to say about Arnold. If
she said the truth she was damned and if she didn't...it
was all hogwash. How could she impute greatness onto a
man who did nothing but scowl and glare at her, turn in
the other direction when he saw her in a room and do other
negative things. She was getting pissed at him more and
more. What made her the maddest was when he posed on the
shoulders of Lisa Lyon, but refused to have pictures taken
with Kellie and basically told everyone in the industry,
not to distribute the pictures he and Kellie were in together.
years later, the hate wore off and vision descended. Kellie
Everts finally understood how love and hate can be INVERTED.
The more you love, the more you hate. The sting of rejection
corresponds to the strength of the desire.
Everts had dealt with a lot of pain, and it wasn't only
from Arnold. It was the whole setup of male bodybuilding.
It was a Club, a Fortress of easy assumptions about male
supremacy and female inferiority. Arnold was part of the
bigger picture of Patriarchy and he fitted in nicely.
The only thing he was fighting was the other guys. With
men it was who had the biggest muscles; like saying who
has the biggest car, the biggest bank account and biggest
dick. Beat out the other guys and you're the King of the
Hill. And Arnold was King.
wasn't struggling with the Arnold affair alone, nor with
her supremacy over other women. The niche given Kellie
was something so comprehensive, that no one would see
it until it was over. It was like God sent an Angel with
a Key, and this Key was put in her hand. She didn't see
the Angel nor the key, but she worked by instinct. This
instinct surfaced in other projects which changed the
world. (Which will be explained elsewhere.)
photos were taken in 1979, near the time of the
PM MAGAZINE TV presentation produced by Maria Shriver.
Angel with the Key was concerned with God's Will, not
human emotions. God's plan had to do with the ENTIRE WORLD
and that was what mattered. We are but pawns in the hands
of Fate, if you will. It's hard for us mortals to see
the big picture, but when we see it, we find Peace. And
what was the big picture?
could not perceive the idea of women's bodybuilding and
they tried to control it when it started. And so, it would
not work to go to the Big Man, Joe Weider. What did he
have to do with Feminism or Female Empowerment? Nothing.
He had everything to do with Patriarchy and Male Empowerment,
the status quo. Can you imagine Kellie, (if she could
have articulated it at the time, ) going up to Joe Weider
and saying the following,
Babe. I think you've got it wrong. Women have muscles
We don't want to be subjugated. We want to have equal
rights in muscles. So encourage us to lift weights, and
start doing articles on us."
wouldn't happen. But it could and did happen with the
world media, albeit God sneaked it in on them, also. It
was all a spoof, but the public took it seriously. When
Kellie was asked to flex muscles for Esquire, she felt
they were trying to make a fool out of her. Ten years
later, she called the editor and asked him to do a retrospect.
are more serious times."
sneaked it in on them letting them see it as a joke. They
thought people would laugh. Except they didn't. Some men
squirmed, like, what are you trying to prove? But women
reporters admired the concept.
of the media which came to Kellie tried to chuckle, like
on the Mike Douglas show, a comedian had her crawl into
a tent with him and made the sides of the tent buckle
in and out:
big hunter catch woman body builder and go bang bang."
of silliness went on for Kellie and Arnold as well, but
they had this in common - they fought back. On one show
Arnold did, after a great demonstration of his prowess,
the female audience was asked what they thought about
Arnold. This was around 1976. Many of them pooh-poohed
the idea of huge male muscles. Some even said, (like Jackie
Kennedy...of all people...he was going to marry into their
family... people always say what's politically correct...
after all, muscle men are not the power brokers of the
world.... Women want men's muscles in their brains and
in their bank accounts, not on their bodies)...some even
said they were NOT TURNED ON by huge muscles!
preached, she made a statement about Our Holy Mother.
She said that anyone who did not love her was ignorant,
but those who knew her and did not love her were
evil. Kellie glanced at Maria Shriver and Maria
gave her a nod of agreement. Kellie loved her for
that. The Kennedy's are a God-loving family. Kellie
saw a group of them at St. Peter Julian Eymard's
Church on the East side of Manhattan, and they all
received Holy Communion, including Ted Kennedy.
Kellie thinks she recognized Eunice Shriver in the
group. She was touched by Rose Kennedy going to
daily Mass, keeping all the rules, having a sandwich
in the car for after Mass. What a great woman! By
the way, Kellie took "Maria" for her Confirmation
name, and so she shares this with Mz Shriver.
fought back. Kellie had never seen a man on tv that pissed,
certainly not a body builder! (Most body builders, believe
it or not, were rather timid and fearful when it came
to talk...that was never a problem with Arnold...he used
bodybuilding as a stepping stone to get to higher ground...
later he said bodybuilding was a joke... meaning it was
not an end to itself.) He told the women they didn't know
what a real man was! And this, in English not completely
perfect. But he made his point. When he told off the women
you could feel the outrage,
ain't the way it usually goes. You don't tell off an audience
later years, Kellie told off many an audience and even
a host here and there.
Arnold knew pain and Kellie knew pain, but yet, they were
at cross purposes. Arnold's mission was Arnold. Kellie's
mission was Female Empowerment. They both got what they
DESIRE TO WIN was super eminent in both characters. When
Arnold succeeded, it was for Arnold. There was a niche
for the next great macho man to fill up. There had been
Errol Flynn and Clark Gable, and then John Wayne. Sylvester
Stallone had skyrocketed to fame in a short time when
Arnold came on the scene. Arnold knocked him out of the
water. Arnold did not have to change culture to become
the next macho star. He had to prove he was the right
man for the right role, and he did.
all get what we pray for. Did Kellie get left behind or
did she win? If you consider HER GOAL which coincided
with the bigger picture God wanted, she had won. She herself
did not benefit greatly from body building. Other people
got the fame and fortune. She lived for a long time in
poverty watching it grow. Everyone made money but her,
everyone got recognition while she was forgotten. But
what was happening to the world? The image of women changed
forever. Women were stronger, wherever you looked. She
and God had won.
Shriver had just finished her piece on Kellie Everts for
PM Magazine, Baltimore. She now took Kellie aside into
the production van and said softly,
ME ABOUT ARNOLD."
on left is at Harlow's, New York Times Square area,
where the PM Magazine dance and preach sequence
was shot. Photo right taken around the same time
almost choked. When she first met Maria Shriver had said
her boyfriend was a bodybuilder. Kellie said,
name is Arnold."
said yes. Kellie could not believe Arnold went for a woman
so plain. This was how Maria portrayed herself that day.
No makeup and baggy clothes. Kellie secretly thought,
had a fling with her and she's probably taking it more
seriously than he."
How could he want a woman so plain?
Maria asked the question, Kellie understood. Stars were
in her eyes. It was LOVE. And Arnold had steered Maria
to Kellie. He did not oppose, mess up or bash the program
- he facilitated it. Not having a mean bone in her body,
Kellie had to make up a silly story. She could not say
anything to put Arnold down. Maria kind of sighed like,
memories! If only Kellie knew she was talking to a FUTURE
GOVERNORS WIFE! AND THE GOVERNOR WOULD BE ARNOLD!
people ask Kellie "What is Arnold really like,?"
the best answer she can give is read the book by
Wendy Leigh. Kellie was amazed that the book describes
Arnold exactly as she knew him.